Get Support for Singleness & Your Dating Journey

At 22, I watched as my friends started getting married one by one. While living overseas after college, more of them tied the knot, and I couldn’t help but feel like I was really missing out. I often felt lonely, and as the singleness stretched out over the years, I sometimes wondered, What’s wrong with me?

Years later, I still wasn’t married, and I had emotional scars from dating unhealthy, narcissistic men (many of whom were in ministry! - you read that right), especially during my time in seminary (yes, in seminary!). Despite my best efforts, I found myself repeating the same dating patterns, attracting people I didn’t want to attract (or attracting people I DID want to attract but who turned out to be all wrong for me). When I did date someone healthy, I often sabotaged the relationship due to my own unresolved issues.

The reality was clear: I wasn’t truly ready for marriage, even though I deeply desired it.

I loved God, I wanted to love others well, and I was doing my best—but it wasn’t working.

That all changed when I decided to return to dating apps—but with one key difference: this time: I was in therapy. I approached dating as a journey of discovery, not a race to marriage. Rather than rushing from A to Z, I embraced the process, allowing trust to build step by step. I learned how to notice flags and wait to see what color they might be, rather than making hasty decisions OR completely ignoring them. Having a safe space to process with a therapist allowed me to evaluate my relationships with clarity and confidence.

Today, I’m happily married (if very imperfectly, and constantly being humbled and learning new things along the way), and I want to help you find fun and joy in our own season of singleness and navigate your own dating journey with the same tools and insights I gained along the way.

Resource: The Intimacy Ladder by Jason and Lauren Vallotton

Book Recommendation: How to Get a Date Worth Keeping by Henry Cloud